what will friends think?

If I tell friends, will they be supportive or will they be so completely appalled that they will avoid us? Will they be angry that we haven't told them before now? Will they worry that their children have been victimized? Will they see my husband as an evil being who deserves prison?

I told a friend that we have had a tough time lately because my husband has been struggling with depression and immediately felt guilty when she was sympathetic. If she ever learns why he has been depressed, will she think I manipulated her into feeling sympathy for him? This makes me not want to tell anyone, ever.