telling

Telling a friend that my husband is under investigation for possession of child pornography feels incredibly risky. His counselor has told me that I might be surprised at how supportive people will be. Yes, I will be surprised. I have told very, very few people; I began with people I am sure of. I told my neighbor, my brother, two pastors. What I have found is that people have no idea how to reach out to us. The pastor has come through with the right thing to say a couple of times, including a time when my husband was struggling with thoughts of suicide. He is a wonderful pastor--a genuinely kind spirit--but this situation is not one that pastors are routinely prepared for. How could he possibly be prepared?